How Well do you really think you know someone?

How well do you really know someone?

My guest this week is a man I met seven years ago, in the early stages of my adult career. I remember our first-hand shake. I was on a black couch sitting closest to the sliding glass door in a one-story house belonging to, producer, Jeff Coldwater, from Rookie Nookie amongst other Box cover studios. Interestingly enough, while writing this first paragraph, I took a moment to google what else Jeff Coldwater directed for, and the first thing to show up on my google feed is Rookie Nookie’s reviews of over 4495 minutes of the series. Two of the most frequent performers seen in a number of ColdWaters films, were low and behold, 2 of my very good friends in the Industry and also former guests of The Hankie Pankie podcast, Sable Renae and Erica Lauren.

I know, squirrel anyway, just like any other scene, you meet your talent, discuss photos, positions, and then, it’s go time, complete with the finish that must be included in the scene to call, that’s a wrap.

Here I am 7 years later, and that male talent for that scene is now one of my best friends and one of the most well-respected men I have had the privilege to enter my life, and I owe him, extra special thanks for being my guide treading through unknown waters.

Now, this starts out soppy and lovey but there is a method to my madness. For those of you who may remember my interview with male performer Dick Chibbles and then my article about Dick, I spoke about what a good friendship we had developed and how he would even help out at my lifestyle events. We spent quite a bit of time together, and as I look back on it, I guess our conversations were more on a surface level. It was when he came over and sat with me in my home studio and shared his life story, I realized that I may not know people as well as I think I do.

Ok so where am I going with this? WAIT FOR IT! Jay and I have also spent quite a bit of time together, not only working in a variety of different scenes, but also we spend a lot of time together at the AVN’, each year. Most recently, Jay has been by my side as my director and camera operator for my documentary.

You would think that I would know the basic history regarding when Jay became involved in the adult industry, how long ago , and how it all began, right? Well, not exactly true, as we never talked about work, when we were not working.

A year after releasing my podcast, I finally was able to nail Jay down to be a guest and share his story. From his family life to his crazy quest across the Canadian borders to see the Olympic games live, to his realization, the Olympics were on the other side of Canada.

He concludes that story with the Canadian border patrol, detaining Jay and his friends with a very stern warning, they were never allowed to cross from the US borders back into Canada. My first question was regarding if he has since then tried to go to Canada, but this was short ended, as then he dropped a bomb on me that took me head on a whirlwind.

Jay was a camera guy first for many years working for the same Producer operating the camera on various pornography sets, BUT he was also for 8 years, the stunt cock for a very well known make talent, who sometimes had a difficult time completing his performance if you are following along with me.

After 8 years, as a camera crew and stunt cock, not showing his face to the public, he finally took the step to own his place in the industry using his own face and his own cock. Ready for my reaction?

Remember, I knew none of this about this man I consider a very dear friend, but my reaction was PRICELESS Jay, when you finally chose to bare all, sorry, I had to play on words there, did fans not begin to wonder, wait a moment that cock looks awfully similar to another very famous performer, how is this possible? Jay’s response, why Coralyn are you saying you could recognize my cock in a scene without my face? Jay, you have the most recognizable Tool in the Shed! Everyone who watches porn knows when Jay Crew is about to work his magic. We both laughed as he knows that he was blessed with something very special, and anyone who knows me well, knows a compliment like that from me is worth millions.

As I wind down today’s entry, I ask my listeners and readers one simple question: would you be able to pick out your partner’s “Sherlock Holmes” from a lineup of 20 men, by seeing nothing but their members?

I will end on this note which ironically works in this case as well. I often revert back to shows that seem to have the same message, we can’t just assume that we know someone without truly knowing their back end. In Jay’s case, however, we ALL know the front end!

Sorry, play on words, I had to do it.

Till next time.

I end with something different

Live a little, laugh a lot

It’s food for the soul

Coralyn Jewel

#1 International Best-selling author: When the Ice Melts: The Story of Coralyn Jewel. Blogger, performer & podcast Host of The Hankie Pankie Podcast.

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Coralyn Jewel

#1 International Best-selling author: When the Ice Melts: The Story of Coralyn Jewel. Blogger, performer & podcast Host of The Hankie Pankie Podcast.